Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Dating Etiquette: What does it look like today?

I like dating. It can be a lot of fun and exciting. You meet someone that you are attracted to and decide to go on a date to see where it can lead to. Actually, I met my date at the grocery store. He asked me my name in the store line up. I couldn't resist his charming smile, so I took his number and called him the next day. He asked me out to dinner. I accepted. I spent a little over an hour preparing for my date...hair and make-up. I wore very little make-up...natural looking. I picked a sexy outfit: a dress, red, cut just below the knees. It had a very classy look to it. A little spritz of perfume and I was ready to go!!  I was a little bit nervous but that feeling would soon disappear.

My date showed up right on time. I must say I was impressed. it showed that he was considerate of my time. He was waiting outside his car with a big radiant smile on his face. I couldn't help but blush and smile at him. We hugged just outside his car. My date smelled amazing, not too much cologne just enough.  He asked me if I was ready to go and I replied: " Yes of course". My date opened the car door for me and attentively waited until I got in and then shut the door. As I got comfortable into my seat in the passenger side, I looked up at him and he had a bouquet of flowers... they were bright pink carnations. They smelled beautiful. I politely thanked him and leaned over for a hug. My date had set the tone for a great night ahead!

So its off to dinner. We had agreed on a simple steak dinner...I am a steak lover (he remembered from one of our previous conversations).  When we arrived at the restaurant. My date opened my door for me. He held my hand as I got out of the car.  By now, I was feeling really good about my date. He seemed very genuine and I loved the fact that he knew how to treat me respectfully. Dinner was great and the conversation flowed freely both asked each other questions and shared stories. I like the fact that he was confident and smiled frequently at me, and he was very attentive to me.
We didn't have anything else planned so he suggested that we go to this cool lounge where they play great music. I agreed. I was still enjoying his company and definitely liking his style. The lounge was very intimate and warm, the music was not too loud giving us a chance to talk. I was having such a wonderful time with him. There was good chemistry between us and I was hoping he felt the same way. We stayed for about an hour had a few drinks, and then started for home.  I wanted to stay longer but it was getting late and I was feeling really good from the alcohol. All the while I was  imagining us making out. But I decided to play it safe on our first date. He drove me home, he opened my car door, helped me out and walked me to my door. He took my hand and gently kissed it. What a perfect gentleman! When inside, the night keeps reverberating in my mind.  I can't wait to see him again!! He left a wonderful impression on me.

Now I can tell you why I was so impressed with my date. For starters, being on time is very important. I really liked the fact that he opened the car door for me. The flowers were very sweet. He was very attentive to me. I liked his confidence that put me at ease. I loved the fact that he paid attention to details: he remembered I like steak.  Overall, it was a memorable date! He was a true gentleman and I felt good around him.

Listen up gentlemen: it's very important to set the tone for a great date. Now- a- days some men do not open car doors for their dates. Are not attentive to their date. Being respectful to a woman shows her that you care and in return she will be more comfortable around you. Almost always if you treat her with kindness and respect you will get a second date. Some of you might be thinking well woman have changed, and they don't want their car door opened for them and little gifts of endearment like flowers, but the truth is we do like it. Just many men do not do it so some of us have accepted the fact that men don't do it and we then complain to our friends later. It is important to know dating etiquette because women will appreciate your effort and I can guarantee you it will leave them feeling great about your time spent together.
Its a good standard to go by when it comes to courting a woman. Its up to you if you want that second date, so play it smart. My date did get a second date with me, why because I like a gentleman.

2 comments:

  1. I am glad Soulfulhoney that you dispel the notion that women have somehow changed their dating habits over the years. I believe you have "hit the nail on the head". There are so many men and women that have lost touch with the "little details" that are guaranteed to impress a date, especially a first date. With the age of the emancipated woman, I believe that a misconception has spawned the notion that somehow women don't value Acts of Chivalry anymore; somehow it has been perceived as weak and "corny". Nothing could be further from the truth! Try it guys! Women have not changed! They will adore you for going out of your way to pay special attention to these unwritten rules of etiquette. And you will get a satisfying feeling when she warms up to you for treating her with great respect and gentlemanly care. Thanks Soulfulhoney! You are one classy lady! Listen-up all you "Knights-In-Shining-Armour". We ride again.

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  2. Thanks for sharing yout insight on dating in the 21st century. I was moved to write this because I believe that most women value the act of having a man treat her with respect. Most women whom I have talked to about dating have said they really enjoy when a man opens their car door and has a gift to present on the date. They said that this made them feel special. I think some men think that women no longer like that kind of treatment but its true most of us adore it!

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