You have been in a relationship for a while, and although your into your partner and still find them attractive. Your sex life may have become a little boring not the same as when you first met. This is quite normal for partners who have been together a while. When this happens there is potential for one or both of the partners to seek thrills elsewhere. No need to panic there is away to remedy the rut you have been experiencing in your sex life. Two major keys will be open communication and a little creativity. Both go very far to putting back the spark that has been missing in your sex life! A great sex life is a major component to many happy couples.
- Sex Toys. Need I say more if you don't have any. I suggest you and your partner incorporate them into your bedroom. There is a lot of fun and interesting toys that you wont regret trying. You and your partner could visit your local store together and pick out a few toys that you both are curious about. Don't worry there is knowledgeable staff that know the products well. If you are shy to go to the store there are tons of online sex store to order discreetly from the comfort of your home.
- Role Playing. This a time for you to explore some of your fantasies. Most people have fantasies that get them turned on by just thinking about them. So why not live out some of your fantasies out in real life through role play. I'm reminded of Halloween. I am dressing up as a naughty nurse. I'm sure there is plenty of men that have had the fantasy of having sex with a nurse. So why not have your partner dress up as one. Or even play out the patient-nurse scenario. Lots of ladies have fantasies about a man in a uniform eg. police officer, fireman. That's a scenario that would be exciting and fun to play out. So talk with your partner about their fantasies. The possibilities are endless. Don't wait any longer, and have that conversation with your partner.
- Location. Sometimes we just keep sex to the bedroom, and I'm sure there are plenty of reasons for that. Lets face it your not going to be doing all over the house all the time, especially if you have children. This calls for a little bit of spontaneity. Sex/lovemaking cant always be planned. So next time when she or he is taking a shower why not join your partner. Road trips are also a great time to have spontaneous sex in unusual places. Outdoor sex can be very exciting...and please be careful and make sure no one is around because, I don't want anyone being charged with public indecency. Again there are lots of possibilities so have fun exploring them.
- Grooming. This is important to both sexes. Sometimes we get into a rut or simply stop doing the little things that our partner really liked. Ladies, men are very visual by nature and get turned on by your appearance. So if you have stopped caring as much as you used to this could be a problem. Try and always look your best. buy some new lingerie. Get your hair done. This will help you feel sexy as well. Men if she always complaining about that long beard you have been sporting, maybe its time to shave. Wear that cologne that she finds irresistible. The one you put on, and she cant keep her hands off of you.
- Games. Now there are a lot of sex games available today on the market. I do recommend that you try a few of them out. You can find most at sex stores or if your the shy type you can order online. A neat and creative way to have some fun and its not an adult game is Twister...I'm sure most of you have played it as kids. You spin a wheel and it shows a colour and a body part and that is where you have to place your body part. So by a few spins of the wheel your body will be in a pretty compromising position. You could put a different rule in that every spin requires your partner to lose an item of clothing.
- Rent A Video. Now this is the 21st century and many people are open to the idea of watching x-rated adult flicks.There is a lot of soft core porn that is more erotic and tastefully done that will appeal more to women. This is about finding the right flick that works for both of you. Take into consideration your partners personality of course, this may not work for everyone. Also you don't necessarily have to leave your home to find a video, because of pay per view. No popcorn needed... just the two of you.
- Sex Therapist. This is usually a last resort for couples. Although if there are some issues that both of you are having a hard time discussing or working through, you both might benefit from talking with a sex therapist. This is good way for couples to sit down with a trained professional who will give you some advice that could really improve your sex life. They are also very good at asking their right questions to find a solution to some of your relationship and sexual issues.
