Who Should Pay On A Date?

I have had this conversation many times with friends on who should pay for the date...many of my friends say that they don't mind splitting the bill. Others said that they prefer when the gentleman pays. Traditionally it has primarily been the man who took care of the financial part of the date. Although times have certainly changed .Women are now in the workforce earning money so they have a higher level of independence. Before men were the ones who made most of the money women didn't hold careers as much as their counterparts were.

If you are going out with someone you are first meeting.  My advice to ladies is always have cash to cover the date. Do not expect the man to cover the bill just because you are a woman. If the date isn't going well you can always politely excuse yourself and pay for your drinks, food etc. This leaves you with a sense of control.
Men when going out with a lady for the first time please have the decency to pay. It shows the woman that you have class and that you are a thoughtful person.  After establishing that you want to see each other again then you can discuss going Dutch.  Most women that  I know like the old tradition of men taking care of the bill on the first few dates.

Everyone is different and have unique ways of looking at social dating etiquette. I trust you know is what is best for you.  Have fun and remember manners and class make a great lasting impression.

He Or She Cheated Now What

There are no good reasons or excuses to cheat on someone who you love and care deeply for, but I am sure people that have cheated have reasons why they cheated that makes sense to them. There are people who love their partner, but still cheat.  I feel that society (media) also plays a part in why people are cheating. Its so easy to cheat these days a click of a mouse pad and there are thousand of sites that cater to men and women who have partners...that can hook up with other people. They also have sites that give you tips on how to get away with it. Don't want to take the responsibility away from the person who cheated. Just stating that there is a lot more temptation. I guess in the end it doesn't matter where or how your partner knows or found the person that they cheated on you with. Its still a betrayal and it hurts. Either way its easy to blame media, your sex addiction, a bad marriage, or whatever reasons a person can give...bottom line its a choice to cheat or not to.

I have personally experienced a relationship where my partner cheated on me, although he didn't want to admit to why and how it was done. Although looking back I am not so sure I could have handled to hear certain details. I would have killed him...No I don't have it in me to kill anyone but I would have wounded him so bad that it would take him entire lifetime to recover from. I can be emotionally abusive when I am hurt by someone I love. I did love him with everything I had. We were very close...he was my best friend, and the sex was incredible. So when I found out he was cheating on me I was very confused and upset beyond words can really express. There were periods in our relationship where I seen inappropriate behaviour...I once when on the computer and checked the history and saw that he registered on a dating site. Not only was he a member but he was using our vacation picture...the two of us were in it. He had this for his profile picture, but he photoshoped me out of the picture. I was hurt and devastated. I came to him with this information...he remained calm and said he was not really looking for anything or anyone on there. His cousin told him about the site and he was just curious. Of course I was not buying that weak excuse. I did choose to forgive him and try to move on from this. I did not want to give up on our relationship.

Call me stupid, naive or whatever, but through the course of our relationship there was so much evidence of him being unfaithful. I would cry and yell. He would try and soothe my fears with sweet words and kisses, and promises that it was nothing. Like the time I saw the text message from a girl, or the time I broke into his voice mail and heard a woman asking him why he didn't show up for their date. All of these times I chose to forgive him, why because I knew that he loved me, and at the time that was good enough for me to hold on to our love. Looking back I now know that there was no trust in our relationship...I didn't trust him that's why I looked through his phone records, yes some people may say that I didn't give him his privacy...but he did not respect me. So you could argue it balanced things out. I am no longer with him. I ended our relationship because I could no longer take the lies and the women on the side. It was not that we did not try to save our relationship...he did agree to attend couples counselling with me and things went well for a bit, until once again this one woman who was always around our entire relationship called our house phone and was rude with me. I told her she could have him. Right there... I was done. So fed up with the bullshit. We broke up for good about three months after that incident.

I do not regret that relationship, because it taught me a lot about myself. Of course we had truly great times together that I will never forget. Memories that will stay with me. As far as the cheating I'm not clear about why he did it because until this day he claims that he never had sex with any of these women...I do not believe him. I do not care to know why he did it anymore. I have moved on and past the hurt that was caused in that relationship. Being single for over a year and a half has given me time to reflect and grow as a person. It has been lonely and it has been challenging being single, but most of all it has been a positive experience, knowing that I do not need a relationship to complete me.

I will never tell any of my readers to leave their partner who has cheated. It is a very personal decision that has to be made when your ready. Some may choose to try and work the problem out. So whatever you choose to do I hope that you do it from a good place and are happy. If you have been cheated on as many people have...I hope that you have moved on and are at a good place emotionally...because I know it can be take some time to get over the betrayal.

I can tell you with time it does get better.

7 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

You have been in a relationship for a while, and although your into your partner and still find them attractive. Your sex life may have become a little boring not the same as when you first met. This is quite normal for partners who have been together a while. When this happens there is potential for one or both of the partners to seek thrills elsewhere. No need to panic there is away to remedy the rut you have been experiencing in your sex life. Two major keys will be open communication and a little creativity. Both go very far to putting back the spark that has been missing in your sex life! A great sex life is a major component to many happy couples.

1. Sex Toys. Need I say more if you don't have any. I suggest you and your partner incorporate them into your bedroom. There is a lot of fun and interesting toys that you wont regret trying. You and your partner could visit your local store together and pick out a few toys that you both are curious about. Don't worry there is knowledgeable staff that know the products well. If you are shy to go to the store there are tons of online sex store to order discreetly from the comfort of your home.
2. Role Playing. This a time for you to explore some of your fantasies. Most people have fantasies that get them turned on by just thinking about them. So why not live out some of your fantasies out in real life through role play.  I'm reminded of Halloween. I am dressing up as a naughty nurse. I'm sure there is plenty of men that have had the fantasy of having sex with a nurse. So why not have your partner dress up as one. Or even play out the patient-nurse scenario. Lots of ladies have fantasies about a man in a uniform eg. police officer, fireman. That's a scenario that would be exciting and fun to play out. So talk with your partner about their fantasies. The possibilities are endless.  Don't wait any longer, and have that conversation with your partner.
3. Location. Sometimes we just keep sex to the bedroom, and I'm sure there are plenty of reasons for that. Lets face it your not going to be doing all over the house all the time, especially if you have children. This calls for a little bit of spontaneity. Sex/lovemaking cant always be planned. So next time when she or he is taking  a shower why not join your partner. Road trips are also a great time to have spontaneous sex in unusual places. Outdoor sex can be very exciting...and please be careful and make sure no one is around because, I don't want anyone being charged with public indecency. Again there are lots of possibilities so have fun exploring them.
4. Grooming. This is important to both sexes. Sometimes we get into a rut or simply stop doing the little things that our partner really liked. Ladies, men are very visual by nature and get turned on by your appearance.  So if you have stopped caring as much as you used to this could be a problem. Try and always look your best. buy some new lingerie. Get your hair done. This will help you feel sexy as well. Men if she always complaining about that long beard you have been sporting, maybe its time to shave. Wear that cologne that she finds irresistible. The one you put on, and she cant keep her hands off of you.
5. Games. Now there are a lot of sex games available today on the market. I do recommend that you try a few of them out. You can find most at sex stores or if your the shy type you can order online. A neat and creative way to have some fun and its not an adult game is Twister...I'm sure most of you have played it as kids. You spin a wheel and it shows a colour and a body part and that is where you have to place your body part. So by a few spins of the wheel your body will be in a pretty compromising position.  You could put a different rule in that every spin requires your partner to lose an item of clothing.
6. Rent A Video. Now this is the 21st century and many people are open to the idea of watching x-rated adult flicks.There is a lot of soft core porn that is more erotic and tastefully done that will appeal more to women. This is about finding the right flick that works for both of you.  Take into consideration your partners personality of course, this may not work for everyone. Also you don't necessarily have to leave your home to find a video, because of pay per view. No popcorn needed... just the two of you.
7. Sex Therapist. This is usually a last resort for couples. Although if there are some issues that both of you are having a hard time discussing or working through, you both might benefit from talking with a sex therapist. This is good way for couples to sit down with a trained professional who will give you some advice that could really improve your sex life. They are also very good at asking their right questions to find a solution to some of your relationship and sexual issues.

Lets Talk About Sex: Tips to make sure she is satisfied

Sex is a natural part of life and feels good. Its only natural that you want to make her feel as amazing as possible. The three attributes that women like in a man are a caring personality, good communicator and a confident attitude. If you have those three attributes you are ahead of the game. Most women love sex talk (dirty talk) make her feel desirable and tease her and she will be turned on.

1. Sweating during sex is good as your body is oozing testosterone. This is a biological turn on for women
2. To get your lady to have a orgasm that requires some foreplay as women need that buildup. Gentle touching, stroking, licking her nipples, inner thighs, vagina and clitoris is enough for some women to reach orgasm. You want to remember the actual intercourse should be left until the end. Finish off with a big bang!
3. Early morning sex is a good option if you are tired of evening sex. Testosterone levels are higher in the morning than any other time of day. So go for it!
4. Set the mood play music she likes and light candles if you have, she will appreciate the sentiment.
5. If she has a headache why don't you suggest giving her an orgasm. Having a orgasm can relieve her headache or take it away altogether. Sex is known to cure headaches due to the release of morphine like pain killer substances in the brain called endorphins.
6. Buy her a sexy lingere for her to wear. Make sure to tell her how incredibly sexy she looks. This will bring out her sexy playful side.
7. Air  conditioner should be turned down low you want the room not to cold. Heat also causes dilation of blood vessels and more swelling of the penis and vagina and flushing of the skin.
8. Stimulate her clitoris this is the most sensitive are of the vagina. Gently stroke it or kiss and sucking on it will have her moaning with pleasure.
9. Find her G-spot. This is usually located in the front section of the vaginal wall between her vaginal opening and cervix. Use your finger to stroke the front portion of vagina. During intercourse its best to enter from behind to stimulate her G-spot. This one of the best orgasms a woman can have.

Top Ten Ways To Impress A Woman

1. Mind your manners.
2. Compliment her but not excessively
3. Be confident. This can be hard especially if your nervous but fake it you have to.
4. Good sense of humour.  Who doesn't love to laugh.
5. Charm.  I'm talking being suave think James Bond (very charming)
6. Remember...you don't have to be incredibly good- looking to be sexy. Sexy, is being comfortable in your own body.
7. No stupid lines. Beware! Women know when you are using them.  Chances they have heard them before.
8. Order a man's drink... no girlie drinks; especially on the first date. Good choices are scotch, beer, (Guinness), and rye to name a few.
9. Chivalry is very important...pull out her chair for her before she sits down, open the car door.
10. Don't seem to eager. Take things slow. Don't give her the impression that you're readily hers.

Dating Etiquette: What does it look like today?

I like dating. It can be a lot of fun and exciting. You meet someone that you are attracted to and decide to go on a date to see where it can lead to. Actually, I met my date at the grocery store. He asked me my name in the store line up. I couldn't resist his charming smile, so I took his number and called him the next day. He asked me out to dinner. I accepted. I spent a little over an hour preparing for my date...hair and make-up. I wore very little make-up...natural looking. I picked a sexy outfit: a dress, red, cut just below the knees. It had a very classy look to it. A little spritz of perfume and I was ready to go!!  I was a little bit nervous but that feeling would soon disappear.

My date showed up right on time. I must say I was impressed. it showed that he was considerate of my time. He was waiting outside his car with a big radiant smile on his face. I couldn't help but blush and smile at him. We hugged just outside his car. My date smelled amazing, not too much cologne just enough.  He asked me if I was ready to go and I replied: " Yes of course". My date opened the car door for me and attentively waited until I got in and then shut the door. As I got comfortable into my seat in the passenger side, I looked up at him and he had a bouquet of flowers... they were bright pink carnations. They smelled beautiful. I politely thanked him and leaned over for a hug. My date had set the tone for a great night ahead!

So its off to dinner. We had agreed on a simple steak dinner...I am a steak lover (he remembered from one of our previous conversations).  When we arrived at the restaurant. My date opened my door for me. He held my hand as I got out of the car.  By now, I was feeling really good about my date. He seemed very genuine and I loved the fact that he knew how to treat me respectfully. Dinner was great and the conversation flowed freely both asked each other questions and shared stories. I like the fact that he was confident and smiled frequently at me, and he was very attentive to me.
We didn't have anything else planned so he suggested that we go to this cool lounge where they play great music. I agreed. I was still enjoying his company and definitely liking his style. The lounge was very intimate and warm, the music was not too loud giving us a chance to talk. I was having such a wonderful time with him. There was good chemistry between us and I was hoping he felt the same way. We stayed for about an hour had a few drinks, and then started for home.  I wanted to stay longer but it was getting late and I was feeling really good from the alcohol. All the while I was  imagining us making out. But I decided to play it safe on our first date. He drove me home, he opened my car door, helped me out and walked me to my door. He took my hand and gently kissed it. What a perfect gentleman! When inside, the night keeps reverberating in my mind.  I can't wait to see him again!! He left a wonderful impression on me.

Now I can tell you why I was so impressed with my date. For starters, being on time is very important. I really liked the fact that he opened the car door for me. The flowers were very sweet. He was very attentive to me. I liked his confidence that put me at ease. I loved the fact that he paid attention to details: he remembered I like steak.  Overall, it was a memorable date! He was a true gentleman and I felt good around him.

Listen up gentlemen: it's very important to set the tone for a great date. Now- a- days some men do not open car doors for their dates. Are not attentive to their date. Being respectful to a woman shows her that you care and in return she will be more comfortable around you. Almost always if you treat her with kindness and respect you will get a second date. Some of you might be thinking well woman have changed, and they don't want their car door opened for them and little gifts of endearment like flowers, but the truth is we do like it. Just many men do not do it so some of us have accepted the fact that men don't do it and we then complain to our friends later. It is important to know dating etiquette because women will appreciate your effort and I can guarantee you it will leave them feeling great about your time spent together.
Its a good standard to go by when it comes to courting a woman. Its up to you if you want that second date, so play it smart. My date did get a second date with me, why because I like a gentleman.